Episode 15 - SERIOUSLY. WHAT IS MY PROBLEM?

The answer to self-sabotage is not to self-sabotage yourself. Years of research and several bookshelves filled with self-help books have brought me to this astounding conclusion. I could have saved myself a few bucks or hundreds if I had put the red heels on. (in the podcast I said they were 6 inches but 3 inches feels like 6 to me: only referring to shoes though lol) Writing has been a therapy. Looking at past writing, you can view the ebbs and flows, ups and downs, and highs and lows, to most of it. Self Sabotage, I have mastered; that trait or quality is apparent whether I would like to acknowledge it or not. Drowning in inspiration and advice from the books, podcasts, and audiobooks, my "ah ha" moment, or what I call my "holy crap" moment, started to come clear to me. Not that I did not know this already, the notion I lack self-confidence and that I sabotage everything with my fears; the new realization was the fact that I was waiting for something to change. What the hell was I waiting for? All this time, I was waiting for change to happen. Was it to come in a lightning bolt to jolt my life in a new direction? Maybe a special delivery right to my front door? It will not manifest, especially with me shutting the door on change every time it appears. I took time to reflect and stood back from it all before the pieces started coming together. Now in no way am I where I want to be, but the door is open for new and exciting things to enter my life. One thing that holds me back is the lack of self-confidence; it is more an ingrained negative self-perception that most likely has some deep seeded root that someday will surface. The first thing that sparked was when I was listening to an interview that led to the question: 'When was the last time you felt outstanding? My answer was First, I'm not too fond of shoes and shopping altogether, and I often wonder if I am some other breed of woman. Second, I like simple, or at least that is what I thought before. Friends had invited us out for an evening of dancing at a club. You always see high heels on women, but not for this chick. My friend convinced me I needed to let loose, have some fun, get dressed up, and go all out. So we went shopping, and I purchased high heels. Totally out of my comfort zone, I turned heads, attention was on me, and I survived. My feet hurt like hell, but I ROCKED. Amongst the self-help shelves, I read: "Your higher self is in direct opposition to your comfort zone." My comfort zone has weighed me down to the point that I have become complacent, and as harsh as it sounds, I have become useless. I was, on the whole, the useless component of making my dreams a reality. As corny as it is, "my higher self was in high heels!" Comfort be damned. My comfort zone was the 'invisible me' blending into my surroundings. Alone in my safe, comfortable zone where the world does not judge me. The red shoes remind me that I look awesome, feel powerful, accomplish goals, and ROCK outside my comfort zone.

Episode 8 - It is NEVER too late to be GREAT

Sex'n'Fries - the Podcast. this episode was amazing. It was my first with guests. It went pretty well considering no one had clue what they were doing.

How many times have you heard "Life got in the way" ?

How about "That is way out of my comfort zone!"?

When I was heading towards my fifties, I was stuck in a 'it is what it is and it is how it is'. Let me explain...

I had somehow learned that my age defined me and what I was to do. It was not obvious to me, but looking back, I realize how I was stuck in a predefined path.

The very day I left my mom's house after her funeral, the world seemed closed, claustrophobic and heavy. My world was changing whether I wanted it to or not.

Holy hell, now what?

As I learned to be an orphan, I realized that I was still learning. I realized I also had years and years of experience.

POW right on the side of a head spinning moment.... I already had the tools, smarts and now I needed to step from the comfort zone of 'letting things happen' and expand to another step.

If I knew then what I know now, most likely nothing would be different and I am sure I would not want it to be. All the crap I have lived through is my portfolio, it valuable life lessons that I continuous learned from. I might have failed a few exams here and there but you also learn from that.

Tracy:
Hello, my name is Tracy Hicks. I am an imperfect Wife, Mother, Daughter, Aunt, and Nana. I have a beautiful daughter, and two equally beautiful granddaughters. I turned 50 years young this past January, and haven't looked back. I am an Entrepreneur, and an Associate Market Builder with MONAT Global. I've lived in Ontario my whole life, but love to travel. I am living my best life.

https://healthyhairwithtracyhicks.mymonat.com

Tracy talked to us about the changes life takes us through but how we start to fit into our own skin.

Barb

Hello, my name is Barb O'Dell. I am a Transformational Life Coach. A personal growth junkie from a young age. I have a passion for helping people to overcome obstacles and challenges. I have been married 36 years and have 2 grown children. Currently living in Ontario I am loving life and myself with the help of all I have learned in life so far.

https://www.itsyourlifecoach.ca/

Barb talked to us about how sometimes life lessons can take you on a transforming personal journey and it is not always easy to see your own value in those lessons. Barb also shows us that your greatness arrives at any age and you are the one that gets there.

Thank you to both my guests. I hope you enjoy this episode!

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This Goddess has Super Powers!

 Oh yeah, I have some powers, the magical way I turn heads; make them want me. 

Oh, they want to be me; I know they do. They are all staring at me now!

  Hell, I am beautiful, stunning...

These powers did not come easy; I had to earn them.

I will let you in on the secret of my super, power ways because I am fantastic too.

The first step to awesomeness:  Get the most amazing smelling shampoo; use Head & Shoulders, it will get rid of that itch, and it comes in some fantastic scents these days.

Next: Make sure to soak those scratch pads off your heels; I think a file will help.

Then: Start at the ankle and stand on one foot while shaving up to the knee, now behind the knee..might as well keep going. Another leg..now pits.

You can use different methods for more body parts that require Sasquatch rescue. Pouring hot wax on the skin and ripping each hair out by the root is an option; burning creams work sometimes, or try all the methods to get the entire ape-like image under control.

We now move to the monkey brows, but don't stop there, start plucking the brows and move to the entire face. Rip all the stray hairs on your face using a mirror and great light. I noticed that natural light is best; I can always see facial hairs that were not seen before in the visor mirror of my car--and I am not plucking them there. 

Try to shape your eyebrows so they match; if you screw up, grab a pencil quick. 

Move to the moisturizing of the entire body. Make sure to moisturize your face and make sure it is smooth and glowing; they sell sand blaster-type gadgets that take off all the gukky skin cells for you. You could also use sandpaper or a scrubby thing from the kitchen...hey, it works on pots, right?

Once the exfoliating and moisturizing are done, check your entire face for random hairs. They seem to pop up whenever and often.

Check mirror...

Ah what the hell is that?

... OK cover up! 

Stay calm. 

Blend the foundation evenly over the entire face...still check for weird-ass hairs on the chin, cheeks, and between eyebrows...if too much cover-up gets on them, they stand out like tentacles.

Brush brows..not sure why but I have one of those thingys for that.

Apply shadow...so both eyes look somewhat similar.

Mascara...freakin' clumps...tissue rescue, and you're good.

Lip liner..now be sure to check this during the day; if your lipstick has left you and you just have liner left..it ain't pretty. So make sure to reapply lipstick all day long.

Hang upside down, shaking hair while blow drying it...body is the key here. Uplift those roots to bring out the fullness. Be careful not to do it too long...just saying...be careful!

File nails, stroke on polish..clean polish from cuticles, fingertips, and end table.

Put blouse in the dryer while running through the house in gitch...

<------Nothing like the gitch I have on, running through the house.

Gitch - My word for underwear, panties etc.,

Breathe...take a sip of cold coffee, almost there, to awesomeness and power goddess.

Moisturize random body parts with body butter; pause and try to remember where you got a thousand jars of body butter from.

Back to the mirror for final primping and adjustments:

• Lipstick on teeth? nope
• Cow lick? Can't save it.
• Perfume? Cheap stuff or good stuff....easy does it.
• Hair spray layer,
•  Extra powder on the face, 
• Jewelry, 
• Socks
• ...run down and get blouse..still in gitch.

Get dressed...do not touch the white blouse to make up on your face, or you will have to start over.

Beautiful, a triumph of goddessness! 

 People are looking...yup, I have done well..I look awesome..everyone is looking....I am turning heads. Some are even pointing......

Holy Crap!!!!!

Discover a large clump of peanut butter and jam on my ass...I think there is even toast involved. A grimey turdball (affectionate name of child-o-mine) left part of his breakfast on the chair I sat on while putting my shoes on before I went. 

People are staring at my ass, alright......

OK..

nevermind..the goddess thing...

you are on your own now. Sorry