Showing posts with label Men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Men. Show all posts

Do men have self-image issues?

 


We have heard the jokes and puns about men worrying about baldness, somewhat like women worrying about how big their butt looks in their new jeans.


Usually, articles and advice on improving self-confidence, awareness, and image point toward women.

Would the same advice benefit men in the same way?

Do they need their pep talks that would differ from the womanly advice we receive?

What helps?

As many suggest, facing and talking about fears is a good start in managing or overcoming them. Some body-image difficulties affect more people than others, and some are fixed (penis size), while others can be altered or improved. Self-help anxiety and body-image books are a great start and help many people. A therapist can also help you work on these anxieties.

Do men and women have such different body image issues, or do men hide it better than women?

If you search for a healthy self-image, most sites found are about women and self-image issues.
Are women more susceptible to damaging self-image and esteem?

According to Self Image In Recovery, the following creates a better self-image.

Your self-image is developed by how you assess the following factors:

* Physical appearance.
* Shape of your body.
* Accomplishments in academics.
* Achievement in athletics.
* Social skills.
* Value system.
* Skills, abilities, and competencies.
* Relationship with family, relatives, siblings, peer groups, and others.
* Behavior in social and professional situations.
* Background and environment from which you came.
* Roles played in life at school, home, work, and in the community.
* Jobs and job titles held.
* Goals, ambitions, and aspirations for the future.

Well, that gets me thinking even more. The things listed above are not gender oriented. So why are women more affected by such things and have so many problems with self-image?

Or do they, in reality?

It could be that women are apt to buy the magazine and analyze their self-image more than men do, reflecting the abundance of information that is geared towards helping women feel better about themselves.

It now comes down to more questions and not a whole lot of answers, but I feel better about myself today just because I was able to come up with so many questions in the first place.

Men and Their Tools

 Usually when it comes to tools, motorized objects, or sports. I hear whah, whah, whah! (like the Charlie Brown teacher)

But then when you start to think about it, two men talking about their tools and toys can be quite exciting and hilarious. When a man compliments another man's tool, women should not be judgmental, there is nothing wrong with a man admiring another man's tool. They take great pride in their tools, often times cleaning and lubricating them. Although their tools are not always organized or even work all the time. Not to mention the "Keeping up the Jones'" many men have tool envy and want the other guy's tool, he would never tell you this, but you know...you just know.

It is not that he wants the other guys tool but to borrow it, use it and then give it back.
It is a sharing system between men, sharing tools and toys, then deciding to get their own so they can share with the next guy that is admiring his tool.
It is not that men don't appreciate their own tools or get good use out of their tools, but there is always some guy with the better tool, the bigger tool that gives better performance. The other guy's tool might have better attributes, and dimensions, be stronger and get the job done with better ease.
It is a vicious cycle of he has, I want.

Where do women stand in all this?

They stand back, pat their man on the head and say "Don't worry honey, I still love you and the tool you have. It doesn't matter if that guy has a bigger tool, size does not matter, it is all how you use your tool and that you enjoy it"

Special note on tools

A carpenters tools - will always get you nailed.
A plumber tools - will always clear your drain.
A dentists tool - will always be in your mouth
A fireman's tool - always a long hose