If you do not remind me that I am over the age of 40, it would not even enter my mind. I am different from when I was 20, that is a given. As I look back on how I felt in my twenties, my awareness of ‘sexy’ was blinded by getting through each new event and challenge presented to me. Before the obvious body changes that I was about to go through when giving birth; raising children, marriage and the inevitable aging process, being happy with the way I looked did not connect to ‘sexy’.
Bring back our confidence and let us shine…right on! But wait, hitting 40 also brings out more labels. Have you heard of the ‘cougar’ ‘her cubs’ or maybe ‘MILF’? The online niches portray the ‘older woman’ in a different scope. Dragged out there for discussion so much so, that there is a TV show ‘Cougar Town’. Let us not forget the ‘Desperate Housewives’, better yet, ‘The Real Desperate Housewives’.
If feeling sexy in your 40’s is not hard enough, trying to find where you fit in could drag into a confusing frame of mind. What if you are not a woman looking for a younger man, or a mother wanting sex with whomever? What if you are not a rich chick in a big house filling her day with shopping and charity events? What if you are just a woman deciding whether to make cabbage rolls for dinner or cutting gum out of the carpet?